Did you know that it can take different lengths of time for your loved-ones in Spirit to be able to communicate with you?

This is something people often ask me, and — without reverting to that rather un-personal phrase ‘How long is a piece of string?’ there is no set answer that I can give.

In many ways, the length of time it takes for a Spirit person to communicate with their loved-one is often irrelevant … Far more important is the practical reason — rather than the desire for the communication to take place.

While I understand that a newly bereaved person may wish dearly to hear from their loved-one, please understand — and trust that Spirit know the most appropriate time for communication to take place. Both you (and your Spirit-loved one) need to be ready.

I recall both giving a message from Spirit just a couple of days after their passing — and also giving the first message from one Spirit over 20 years after their transition … In each case, the timing was perfect.

Conditions have to be right on both sides of life for communication to be able to happen …

The new Spirit person likely takes time to get settled into the Spirit World — resting, Healing, learning and understanding about their new energetic state. After all, they’ve been on quite a journey!!

For the bereaved — there is the upheaval of emotions, practicalities needing attention, the change in circumstances — even the fact that resentment can be long lived — all these can impact on how ready a person may be to hear from their loved one, or a particular person in Spirit.

The desire or need to receive, versus the practical reason to deliver has to be balanced …

It takes a lot of energy for Spirit to be able to communicate, and so Spirit will always have a reason for communicating — however long it has been since their passing. It may be that to say ‘Hello’ is the reason — but most likely there is a deeper need will be greater than that.

I don’t often remember many messages, but some do stick in my mind. I gave a message to a young couple at a Spiritualist Church once. I had never seen them there before, and as Spirit drew near, I knew I needed to go to them. I described the Spirit person — who they recognised immediately as a friend.

It was probably the shortest communication ever: ‘Don’t worry about next Tuesday’, the Spirit said. And that was it.

At this, the couple broke down in tears and thanked me profusely — it turned out he had passed just three days previously, and his funeral was arranged for the following Tuesday. The couple were distraught as they were unable to attend the funeral of their friend. This short message meant the world to them; their friend obviously knew they were agonising about this, and he had been desperate to reassure them that it was ok.

Another occasion, I was drawn to an elderly lady. A male Spirit quite forcefully appeared in my energy; he seemed to be quite edgy, not a particularly easy character. As I described him, the lady’s open stance closed and she made it clear she didn’t want to hear from him.

The man in Spirit angrily said something along the lines of ‘Bl**dy ‘*ll, I needn’t have bothered — but i’m here now. Just tell her i’m not going to apologise’ I relayed this, and the lady retorted haughtily ‘Yup, that’d be right, he never did!!’ her arms tightly crossed.

The man then went on to share he realised now how he had affected his wife. He reiterated that he wasn’t going to apologise, but that he was ready ‘to let her to know he regretted making her so miserable.’ I duly passed on his message.

At this, the lady softened — relief and joy spreading across her face — ‘I’ve waited 40 years for him to realise that, just to know he finally realises that he was a complete b*****d!! And he’s been dead for 20!! Thank you. you don’t know how much that means to me.’

So if you wonder when you may hear from your loved-one, or feel despondent as you haven’t heard from them for a while — trust in the wider love of Spirit, and trust that your Spirit people know when you will be in a place and state most able to gain best benefit from their communication.

I hope this helps you, and takes away a little bit of the mystery … after all, no one can see that piece of string!!